Few months ago, I read this quote and it nudged my soul a bit too hard. Sometimes few sayings have the power to make you write endlessly on a certain subject and this one surely qualifies for it. Now, here I’m talking about our first love!

We all have loved someone in our lives and may be quite a few of us have found themselves in and out of love multiple times, under different circumstances but it is usually said that the first love is always the memorable one – the one we found in our childhood or may be the one we met at our first workplace or college or tuition center – the one who gave us sleepless nights, because of whom every romantic song had its meaning changed and we listened to them on repeat. When we told our family that we just don’t want to go out with them to wait for somebody to come online and because of whom we had that silly smile on our face while basking under the sun of romance, or shed a tear or two knowing that we have lost him/her somehow.

Love has its own realm. It makes you impatient, gives you tears, make you want to talk to God in a thousand different ways so that we could get him. Few of us might have also become poets – all for love because love is all we crave!

Digressing a bit from the subject but it is important to understand why love makes us so vulnerable. In my opinion, love is the only food we are raised with until we learn the basics of this life. All that a child needs to gain the physical strength to conquer this world is actually love and kindness. So when our soul finds another soul speaking the language of our existence, we just lost it there..and that too, quite hopelessly!

Before reading this quote, my philosophy about love was pretty like yours … which is quite messed up actually. As, I also thought, that it is the first love which is unforgettable. I was wrong. It is actually the first person, who breaks our heart when we are in love – may be for the nth time.

It is that painful rejection of your heart and soul coupled with those deep emotions, which you had shared with your love, that keeps coming back and haunts you.

You never forget that first person who broke your heart and (s)he doesn’t have to be your first love :/ May be, it was you who had to say “no” the first time and moved on – in that case your feelings would have been quite different. You probably forgot it as a bitter reality of life but remember your partner might have had cursed you a million time for rejecting him/her.

It is the soreness of the lost love which lingers on for the rest of our lives – sometimes as being painful and other times, just being an emotionless flashback.

We are hurt when we are rejected. When we are rejected, we become vulnerable. When we become vulnerable we ask ourselves “why” and when there is no closure – there is this sense of incompleteness which haunts us.

So lucky are those who never get hurt in this journey of life but what a life it would be if there are no tears or lessons? Love can never be an end; it is a mean to an end and remember, the cure is taken multiple times for healing the soul. So remember what you have lost but don’t get lost in something which was destined to become a memory!